IF YOU CAN’T BE IN THE JOB YOU LOVE HONEY, LOVE THE JOB YOU’RE IN
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IF YOU CAN’T BE IN THE JOB YOU LOVE HONEY, LOVE THE JOB YOU’RE IN
Crosby, Stills and Nash had a hit song back in the 70’s
or have I got the wording wrong?
Do you love what you do? Do you actually love what you do and are happy with the monetary reward that you get at the end of the week or do you work because you just don’t have a choice at the moment?
I remember when my parents used to tell me that I had to find a job that I loved. Coming from Europe after the war, I now can understand why they would think like that, Australia after all was the land of milk and honey.
Just a couple of years ago an inner city (Sydney) business magazine conducted a poll to see what people thought of their jobs. 60% across the CBD (Sydney) hated what they were doing and were actively looking for another job. Probably the reason why part time work has exploded with the young as they try and work out what it is that will make them happy and keep their mojo grooving along.
My hat goes off to those people who love surgery, who love to teach my kids, who love to protect the general public, the people who love to invent and research, to those farmers who love the land. Who actually make up a relatively small number overall in the number of jobs and workers out there. How could I not mention those athletes who love the sport they are in and us peasants who love watching them compete.
No one else can tell you what should make you happy. You need to figure that out for yourself, and then organize your work in a way that it does not torture you.
But, you don’t actually need to LOVE your work in order to be happy and succeeding in your life. You see, the majority of the work force is comfortable in being uncomfortable. They just put up with it. And then they look back after 20, 30 0r even 40 years of the same drudgery with a heavy heart and ask themselves “what if……”
Trying to LOVE your work is a bad idea
OK, if you are one of the people who wakes up every morning and says, “I love my work” and you mean it, and you get paid enough money to do what you love — or you don’t need any money, then this blog is not for you. Congratulations. You are one of the very few people for whom this works out. Enjoy it and appreciate it.
I have found that most of these people who end up doing what they love for work usually have had a very clear view of what that would be for their whole life. And they have always had an unusual amount of energy and focus to make it come true.They find their way to their one true calling because there is no other option for them. They can’t NOT do it.What about the rest of us? What about those of us for whom the path is not so clear? Most people (of any age) I talk to say they are not sure what they want to be when they grow up.
So when one of these luminaries tells everyone, “You must love your work,” it sets most people up to feel like a failure for not doing this. If you wake up every morning and think, “I don’t love my work,” the big point I want to make is this: YOU ARE NOT FAILING AT ANYTHING.
Becareful #1 – You ruin a good hobby
I see some people try to take the things they love and do them as a living. It could be art, music, sports, poetry, whatever. The problem happens when they take this advice to heart and think the only way to be truly successful is to do what they love for a living. So they try. They turn their favourite hobby into their primary job.
Then many fail to make enough money at it — so their life is hard.
And for most people who try this, they also ruin their hobby. Instead of doing it for the pure joy of the hobby, they have instead turned it into something that they actually don’t love anymore by compromising on how they do it to please others instead of themselves, and by adding the responsibility of making it pay.
Becareful #2 – You feel like failure no matter what you do
This one I think is most common, and most exacerbated by these “you must love your work” advocates. It happens when people who have a good job, make enough money to take care of their family, enjoy their hobbies, and by every measure are doing great.
But they walk around feeling like a failure, thinking, I am in the wrong job. I should be doing something that I love, but I don’t know what that is or how to do it. So I am doing something wrong. I’m not even good enough to figure out what I should be doing.”
I see it all the time. You are doing GREAT.
The important thing in life is to LOVE your family, LOVE your friends, and LOVE your hobbies. Focus on the things that bring you joy. It doesn’t need to be one earth-shattering thing. It can be a variety of things. Make sure you invest time on these things.
And if you make enough money, you eliminate the major stress in life that comes from not having enough money to live on, and you have money to do many things that you love. You also have the flexibility to explore and potentially find even more new things that you love.
Create your own “job” by creating your own happiness
There is a really huge space between loving your work and hating your work. Find a good spot in there for yourself.
In today’s world of commerce, things are totally different to what they were say 20 years ago, hell, only 10 years ago. Not since the industrial revolution has there been such a shift in the way we now conduct business. The internet has created a transactory world in the palm of your hand. There is nothing you can’t do, nothing you can’t find, nothing you can’t buy or sell by punching in some key words into the palm of your hand. But best of all, the internet has created a level playing field that everybody and anybody can use no matter who you are or what circumstance you may be in and get paid handsomely in the process.
No one cares about your career as much as you
No one cares about your happiness as much as you. If you are willing to do thankless, unhappy work that someone needs done, no one will ever ask you to stop. You need to be the one to advance your own career.
But the surprising thing that researchers have found, a happy job that brings in a good income usually creates another avenue of happiness, being one of giving. You see, there is a direct correlation of giving and receiving. If you were earning a million dollars a year continuously, would there be a part of you that feels as though you are compelled to “give” to something close to your heart. You could almost argue the point, that you need to become a high income earner so that you can support your favourite charity or cause. Most of the successful people in the world are also the best “givers” of the world. By giving, you get back two fold. That, to the majority of successful people, becomes more of the love in their work than generating a big income.
If ever an old truism YOU GET WHAT YOU GIVE.
So if you find yourself at the crossroads of your job interests, have a look at what opportunities are on offer out there. Just through experience, that “been there done that” thing, and the many thousands of dollars spent, almost three years of a internet home based business apprenticeship only to find that the most dynamic and best business models are at our fingertips waiting to be launched immediately, as soon as you say SHOW ME.
email me firstname.lastname@example.org. and I’ll show you.